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Does falling in Love with your best Friend ruin your Friendship? University of Ibadan students shares experience

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Friendships are one of life’s greatest joys. Finding someone we can share our heart with — someone who understands and accepts us just the way we are is priceless. When we can have a deep friendship with someone from the opposite sex, it is a tremendous gift. There is so much to learn and respect about both genders. However, some people feel  friendship would be much better in dating  while others feel it is better to respect each others friendship than otherwise. This is why, we asked the question if  Falling in Love with best Friend would ruin your Friendship? Here are the response we got from students:

Does falling in Love with your best Friend ruin your Friendship?

Does falling in Love with your best Friend ruin your Friendship?

Lizzy… (Philosophy department)

Not at all! When you date your best friend, everything is easier. From discussions to being comfortable with each other, to having fun, helping one another… Trust me dating your best friend is way better than dating a stranger and you get to have fun and stay friends at the same time.

 

Bisoye.. (English department)

Yes and no. I had a best friend a long time ago and we tried being together but it never really panned out. It sucks because she was great, we had so much in common it was truly weird and genuine. I guess we were just better as “friends” and nothing more. After we broke up amicably I ended up cutting ties with her for the betterment of my mental health. One year later I met my current best friend and, while we don’t have as much in common as I did with my ex best friend, I know she is a keeper. We’ve been together for 4 years and it’s absolutely wonderful, she makes me the happiest. Some days I think of my ex and miss the genuine connection we had, but I wouldn’t trade in what I have right now for anything in the world.

 

Kayosola.. (Psychology department)

2 years ago my best friend and I got tired of being lonely and depressed, and we understood each other and could talk about anything. So we agreed on trying to date for 3 weeks, if it felt weird/ didn’t work we’d call it quits and pretend it never happened, as we didn’t think it would work out. We messed that plan up severely, and by that I mean we live together, own two pets and are getting ready to set our official wedding date Still turn to him sometimes and go ‘ I think we fucked up the three week plan’

 

Ruth.. (Philosophy department)

Yeah. We tried dating off and on for a little over a year, but things just fell apart somewhere along the way. He broke things off for good about 3 weeks ago, and hasn’t spoken to me since. He said he still sees me as a close friend, but I think he just said that to soften the blow. If it were true he wouldn’t be ghosting me right now. I don’t know if I’m still in love with him or not, my feelings are a jumbled mess right now, but I do miss him terribly.

 

Solomon.. (Philosophy department)

I’ve always wondered about this. Seems like an ideal relationship, but my best mate is a dude and I’m straight and he’s basically like a brother and knows more about me than any girl I’ve had a lasting relationship with, just kinda by default.

 

Clara Nancy.. (English department)

Dated my best friend for like ~2 weeks and nothing changed besides we held hands more often then we decided we were better as friends. That was like 3years ago and were still best friends.

 

Joke.. (Philosophy department)

Yeah, I wan we had a thing. Definitely went both ways; but for some reason it just didn’t work out like we thought it was going too, we talked pretty well constantly and everything was for the most part good, but at the end of the day… we haven’t talked in about 3 years and I don’t miss her as much as I used too, but I still miss her and think about her sometimes, if anything just for the friendship.

 

Joy.. (Philosophy department)

Honestly I have to say yes. I had a best friend for about 2-3 years, we talked constantly, we made each other laugh all the time, we were there for each other when times were rough, we flirted a little, we had feelings for each other but were scared to say anything, we finally got into a relationship and after about 2 months of being together, every fell apart, could’ve been wrong place, wrong time but I’ll never know, haven’t spoke to her in about 2 years now.

 

Khadijat… (Philosophy department)

I am the friend they fell in love with. Didn’t change a thing. We don’t share feelings but we’re mature enough to understand it’s no one’s fault. They respect that I don’t feel the same way and never push on the subject, try to ask me out or anything. And I honestly, as bad as it may sound, don’t really care about it. It’s their feelings, not mine.

2 Comments

  1. Waoooow….. It’s amazing how people shares their experience on this beautiful topic…. Anyways to me, I think it’s advisable to be in relationship with someone you really know and understand and there must be a valid agreement between you both be ye your best friend or someone you just have feelings for…. It’s not possible to just walk to a stranger and ask for relationship if not get to know each other first….. So falling in love with a best friend ain’t meant to be problem if there’s mutual agreement for the relationship between both…..

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